Opinion—Religion, the bane of humanity, and women specifically


Unknown purple flowers, Ramona GrasslandsBack in 1966 I got into a discussion with my wise old grandmother about why she didn’t work. That was the wrong discussion to have with her. She worked. A lot.

She cleaned the house, including the bathtubs, sinks, and toilets; made the beds; vacuumed the carpets; mopped the kitchen and bathroom floors; dusted and Lemon-Pledge-d the furniture; removed, cleaned, and re-hung the curtains; cleaned the windows, both inside and outside; washed the clothes; hung the clothes out to dry; watered the lawn and the gardens; mowed the lawn; fertilized the lawn and flowers; removed crabgrass and weeds from the lawn and flowerbeds; pruned the trees and bushes; shopped for groceries; took me shopping for clothes and school supplies; replaced burned out light bulbs; washed, dried, and waxed the car; did oil changes for the car; cleaned the garage.

Friday Flower Fiesta by Russel Ray PhotosProbably more stuff that I’m forgetting.

Of course, once I arrived on the scene, I got to do a lot of that stuff. There’s a reason why I’m into xeriscape, succulent, and cactus landscaping. I never enjoyed mowing the lawn, pruning the trees, or removing crabgrass and weeds.

I also have discovered that there are people who enjoy doing the stuff that I don’t, so I don’t do oil changes, don’t rotate tires, don’t wash/dry/wax the car. That stuff gets done, just not by me.

Succulent flowersMy discussion with my wise old grandmother that day got me interested in gender-specific roles in our households and how one gender was seen as the breadwinner and the other gender seemed to be taken for granted.

My wise old grandmother never complained. She had only a first-grade education because, when her dad died, she had to drop out of school and help in the fields and around the house. She brought the crop in from the fields; fed the cattle, pigs, and chickens; gathered the eggs; milked the cows. That was the era she lived in, but she realized that what she did around the house had value to the family even if she was not directly paid for her work.

Tiny flowers at San Diego Zoo, San Diego, CaliforniaThings have changed some in the past hundred years, and even though women have joined the work force and can be doctors, managers, politicians, and so much more, there still is a gender pay gap in society. That doesn’t mean that every woman is paid less than every man, but that the average woman is paid less than the average man doing the same job.

I submit that there is an inherent, unrecognized psychological reason for that. Moms’ gender seems to be a subset of the men. To wit:

Man – Woman

Male – Female

Tiny flowers at San Diego Zoo, San Diego, CaliforniaWhen the two genders get married, the man gets to keep his last name while the woman gives up her last name and takes the last name of the man. What’s with that?

I even know two gay couples—one male couple and one female couple—who, when they got married, one gave up the last name and took the last name of the other. Jim & I got married on October 30, 2008. Neither of us considered taking the other’s last name. We were simply two guys who got married. Giving up your last name just because you signed a contract to take care of each other till death do you part makes no sense to me, especially with the prevalence of divorce in today’s world.

Tiny flowers at Ramona Grasslands, Ramona, CaliforniaWhen it comes to the collective, there isn’t any pretense.

Humanity, not huwomanity.

Mankind, not huwomankind.

Son and daughter seems to be the only place where the two genders are recognized as being separate, but if the gender is not known, then it becomes person, not perdaughter.

Tiny flowers at San Diego Zoo Safari Park, Escondido, CaliforniaI think that the gender pay gap will always exist as long as society sees women as less then men, and society will see that as long as the words we use indicate that women are, indeed, less then men, and as long as religion teaches that women are less then men.

So maybe women as a collective should come up with a new word to describe themselves. Perhaps feperwo? Sounds too weird, too strange, too different, but maybe that’s exactly what’s needed to make a clean break.

Unknown flowerI also anticipate that there will be about half the feperwos who want to be seen as a subset of their man, as a possession of their man, probably due to religion, again, since it teaches that a woman should be submissive to her man, that women should not teach or speak or have authority over men
(1 Timothy 2:12; 1 Corinthians 14:34-35. Note that both books are in the New Testament which supposedly superseded the Old Testament!), etc., nothing will change.

Succulent orange flowerIn doing research for this blog post, I found a very disturbing site online titled “10 Bible reasons why a wife must submit to her husband regardless of culture.” An introduction to the list states, “Culture has never been a factor as to whether a woman must submit to her husband in the Bible. Modern times of woman’s liberation are irrelevant. God gives us His reasons why women must submit to her husband.”

  1. Friday Flower Fiesta by Russel Ray PhotosCreation order: Man was created first, woman second. “For it was Adam who was first created and then Eve.”
    1 Timothy 2:13
  2. Creation origin: Man and all creation was created by God directly out of dust, whereas woman was created through the man’s rib. “Then the Lord God formed man of dust from the ground, and breathed into his nostrils the breath of life; and man became a living being.” Genesis 2:7
    “Woman is the only creature not made from dust. Woman derives her origin from Man.”The Lord God fashioned into a woman the rib which He had taken from the man, and brought her to the man.” Genesis 2:22
    “For man does not originate from woman, but woman from man.”
    1 Corinthians 11:8
  3. Friday Flower Fiesta by Russel Ray PhotosCreation purpose: Woman created for man: “For indeed man was not created for the woman’s sake, but woman for the man’s sake.” 1 Corinthians 11:9
  4. Man named woman: Adam named the animals and was to rule over them. “Out of the ground the Lord God formed every beast of the field and every bird of the sky, and brought to the man to see what he would call them; and whatever the man called a living creature, that was its name.” Genesis 2:19
    Rule over the fish of the sea and over the birds of the sky and over every living thing that moves on the earth. Genesis 1:28
    When Eve was brought to Adam, he named her, showing he was to rule over woman as well. “The man said, ‘This is now bone of my bones, And flesh of my flesh; She shall be called Woman, Because she was taken out of Man.’ ” Genesis 2:23
  5. sunflower faa stampDelegation principle: God commanded directly to Adam alone. The prohibition to not eat of the tree of knowledge of good and evil, was made directly by God to Adam. Adam, in turn relayed what God said to Eve. Eve had not yet been created when God told Adam about the forbidden tree. Eve never actually heard God say this direct, but had to trust Adam’s word on the matter. “The Lord God commanded the man, saying, “From any tree of the garden you may eat freely; but from the tree of the knowledge of good and evil you shall not eat, for in the day that you eat from it you will surely die.” Then the Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone; I will make him a helper suitable for him.” Genesis 2:16-18
  6. Unknown flowerWoman sinned first: The devil tempted Eve and she, not the man, was first deceived. Because of this, man put Eve under the headship of Adam. “And it was not Adam who was deceived, but the woman being deceived, fell into transgression.” 1 Timothy 2:14
    “Now the serpent was more crafty than any beast of the field which the Lord God had made. And he [not only does the serpent talk, but it is personified with the pronoun “he”] said to the woman, ‘Indeed, has God said, ‘You shall not eat from any tree of the garden’?’ ” Genesis 3:1
  7. AloeGod rebuked Adam first after they ate the forbidden fruit: Although Eve was the logical person for God to rebuke first, God went to Adam, showing that God considered Adam the “head of the family” for both. “Then the Lord God called to the man, and said to him, “Where are you?” Genesis 3:9
  8. Man is the glory of God, woman is the glory of man: “For a man is the image and glory of God; but the woman is the glory of man.” 1 Corinthians 11:7
  9. Paul pointed Christians to the Mosaic Law that was 1500 [years] earlier and a different culture: 1 Corinthians 14:34
  10. Peter pointed Christians to Sarah, 2000 years earlier and a very different culture: 1 Peter 3:5-6.

Friday Flower Fiesta 12-19-14 Russel Ray PhotosI grew up Catholic and Mormon, but I have no religion in my life now. I have found that religion is not necessary for me to be a productive member of society; a kind and generous individual; a caring individual; a reasonable, logical, and thinking individual.

I don’t know what #9 and #10 mean, and I’m not willing to find out. I have had enough religion in this one post to last me for the rest of my life because I find it silly to worship an imaginary being in the sky who causes or doesn’t stop hurricanes, tornadoes, earthquakes, cancer…… on and on. If there is a God, s/he is going to have to beg me for forgiveness, or I’ll be happy to go straight to hell.

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28 thoughts on “Opinion—Religion, the bane of humanity, and women specifically

  1. Bumba

    Yes, but religion/belief in a higher being is a human universal. Traditional cultures needed it, it arose from them. Perhaps we are in some sort of transitional/confused state in our evolution.

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  2. appletonavenue

    Religion was always about controlling the community, and who needed the most controlling. The sight of a woman’s long hair incites passion in men, something the church looked unfavorably upon, therefore women must cover their heads. Pretty much the same thing with dress. I see how it all got perverted during the Dark Ages.

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  3. lorie

    It’s too bad that a woman’s work is often taken for granted. It shouldn’t be that way. Proverbs 31:10 and on describes all the hard work a woman does and says in verse 28 that her husband praises her. That is how it should be.

    As for headship, it’s a godly arrangement of authority based on respect. The Bible says a husband should love his wife as his own body, and a wife should have deep respect for her husband. It compares how Jesus takes care of the congregation to how a husband should care for his wife in Ephesians 5:21-33. A husband should imitate how Jesus was, as described in Matt. 11:28-30.

    Even though a wife is to be submissive to her husband, that doesn’t mean that she can’t make decisions or have opinions. A marriage is a team effort with the husband having the final authority and ultimate responsibility for making things work. Most of the time my husband and I agree and decide things together. Oftentimes, he listens to what I think and he adjusts his plan. If there were something we didn’t agree on, then headship comes into play, and I would try to support his decision (be submissive) because I love and respect him. I know he wouldn’t do something I didn’t agree with unless he really felt it was the best decision. All couples need to compromise. Compromise is a huge part of headship for both spouses.

    Sadly, mistreatment of women, often in the name of religion, is everywhere. The Bible says the whole world is in the power of the wicked one (1 John 5:19), That is why we pray for God’s will to take place on Earth.

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  4. ivors20

    I found your article an interesting read, and quite thought provoking. Well I’ll keep it simple, because I still can’t understand women. And as for religion, for me it’s humanities curse. “Imagine”

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  5. Gallivanta

    Hmmm……I was brought up in Methodist and Presbyterian traditions, and attended a Presbyterian high school. I don’t remember ever being told by the church or my community that I was a lesser person because I was female, or that I should be submissive to a husband if I married. Many females I knew were empowered by their religious beliefs. However I expect my upbringing was slightly unusual because later on in life I found many of the issues you raise were common beliefs/banes in other societies. I was quite shocked by this discovery. As for taking your husband’s name in marriage; that is customary here in NZ but it is not a legal requirement. You can keep your own name, take your wife’s name, or your husband’s name. A lot of problems with religion, politics,customs and gender issues might be resolved if critical thinking was taught in schools.

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  6. restlessjo

    You made me smile, though I’m not sure that that was the intent. 🙂 🙂 I just wish that I did all my ‘womanly’ jobs with a better grace. I cook/clean etc because someone has to. My husband pulls his weight but he’s no cook just as I’m no plumber. Happy Sunday!

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    1. Russel Ray Photos Post author

      I grew up in a very poor family where we did everything ourselves. So I’m ambidextrous when it comes to doing things. I can cook and clean, pull my weight, or do the plumbing………….LOL


  7. dweezer19

    Amen. I love the way people cling to the Bible, a book written, and rewritten, and rewritten by man, as ‘God’s Word.’ I agree with everything you have stated here and have chosen a similar position and walk in my life after being raised Southern Baptist surrounded by Catholic friends. I often think about the the statement in Genesis where it is written “and then (the gods) created man in its own image”. I fear it is the other way around. Man has created a God that reflects his own very human nature-angry, vengeful, judgmental, selfish….
    And yes, women who do not get paid as homemakers very much work. It is a labor of love. (Most of the time. 😉) peace.

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