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Gratuitous pictures of the Queen

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THE BIG MOVE is occurring today and tomorrow.

Beds, desks, computers, and all the small stuff is moving today.

Unfortunately, though, it appears that one cannot get appropriate Internet assistance from the company that provides Internet connection to the 24/7 Internet world.

That just doesn’t make sense to me…….smh.

Thus, as soon as I disconnect the computers I won’t have Internet access until sometime tomorrow, and you know how those windows work with companies in today’s world….

“You should be re-connected between 8:00 a.m. and 5:00 p.m.”

Well that’s of great help…..smh…….again.

Fortunately, to help get us through this time off the grid, we have WordPress to let us schedule a post in the future, so this post is being scheduled for tonight at one minute past midnight.

Of course, we also have Zoey the Cool Cat to entertain us during this downtime when we’re not being entertained by the news stories about the Republicans….

So here are some gratuitous pictures of the Queen during her seven years here:

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Zoey the Cool Cat in her new sack

Zoey the Cool Cat stalking a mourning dove

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Zoey the Cool Cat spiral bound book

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Zoey the Cool Cat soccer ball

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Zoey the Cool Cat and her red ring

A wet Zoey the Cool Cat

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Zoey the Cool Cat on the desk

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Zoey the Cool Cat, Olympic boxing champion

Zoey the Cool Cat Rounder

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Zoey the Cool Cat exploring the books

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DO NOT EAT LIZARDS!

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My mother-in-law celebrated her 80th birthday last week. It happened to be the same day as Mother’s Day. Unfortunately, Jim and I did not get to go celebrate with her until yesterday, a celebration that occurred at Famous Dave’s, our favorite barbecue restaurant in San Diego County.

Following are five pictures from our visit yesterday.

First up is this rooster:

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That rooster crows from its spot on top of the refrigerator. I always have liked it so yesterday I took a picture of it while no one was looking. Moral: Never invite me to your house because you know I’ll have my camera with me…. snap! snap! snap!

Next up is Buddy. Looks like this:

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Buddy had to go to the vet last week because he was not feeling well. The vet shaved his little tummy to do an ultrasound, and he had to have an IV, too. You can see a little shaved section on his paw where the IV was. Nothing definitive, but some antibiotics returned him to normal. The only thing that made any sense is that Buddy had been seen eating a lizard just before he got sick. Moral: DO NOT EAT LIZARDS!

Next up is a set of three sunset pictures. Sunset can be quite beautiful from their back yard in Vista because of the trees. Here they are, as well as the time they were taken:

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2015, The Year of the Quitting Bloggers

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Long-time readers know that I am pretty methodical in living my life. It’s a regularity that irritates some people because they want me to pay more attention to them than I do everyone else.

I have a huge Excel file that controls my life. Within that Excel file are a few billion Excel spreadsheets—Finances, Books Read, Movies Watched, Music Listened To, People Who Won’t Get Christmas Cards, Blogs Visited….

I usually visit 100 blogs per day, and currently in my Blogs Visited spreadsheet are links to 2,369 blogs, all of them on the WordPress platform because that’s the platform on which I blog. For those like me whose math skills are less than optimal at this point in life (I rely on Excel for even basic math now), that means that it takes me 24 days to visit all the blogs I follow. That might seem like a lot, but….

On January 1, 2015, I was following 3,741 blogs!

What happened?

big fat zeroWell, if someone hasn’t published a new blog post since last time I visited, that someone gets a big, fat zero in the spreadsheet. At the end of the month, everyone with a big fat zero (►) gets summarily deleted. So I have deleted almost 1,400 people in just a little over four months! That’s more than 300 people per month who have quit blogging regularly!

In some cases, it’s justified, like the one guy who died. I left my condolences for his family who had left a message on his blog.

One person, though, said that she was taking the month off and would see us in the new year. Well, the month she was taking off was December 2013…. Nothing from her in 2014 or 2015.

Some people don’t seem to be blogging anymore but are still coming by here and leaving LIKEs and comments. I have LIKEd and commented on all their blog posts, so I don’t know what to do other than to have Zoey the Cool Cat say….

Thank you!

I realize that blogging isn’t for everyone, and sometimes when one tries something, one decides that one doesn’t like it. There are many things I have tried that I didn’t like—managing a restaurant, working retail, changing the oil in the car, wearing blue jeans….

To all those who have left the blogging world, best wishes for health, happiness, peace, and prosperity. To the rest of us, sing along with the following song but replace “flowers” with “bloggers.”

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Today is my California anniversary!

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Twenty-two years ago today is the day that I decided to live permanently in San Diego, California.

My journey started on April 15, 1993. I was standing in line at the Bank of A&M in College Station, Texas, to transfer money from savings to checking so I could pay my income tax due. That’s when it hit me: “There has to be more to the world than the Great Nation of Texas.” After mailing my tax return, I went home, packed the Mustang GT with enough clothes to last a week, $5,000 in cash, and 100 CDs, which included all of The Beatles, of course.

I drove from College Station over to Shreveport, up to Fargo, over to Seattle, up to Vancouver, down to Sacramento, down to Bakersfield, and down to San Diego, arriving here on April 27. I spent three days at Blacks Beach (↓picture↓), coming up only at night to sleep at the KOA Kampground in Chula Vista.

Blacks Beach in San Diego, California

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On the evening of April 30, 1993, as I was eating at a restaurant in the Hillcrest neighborhood of San Diego, the weatherman came on the television to announce that for the third consecutive month, San Diego did not have any rain whatsoever, not a trace. I said softly to myself, “I could live here.”

And here I am!

There’s a little more to the complete story should you care to read it: A suicide journey ends in failure.

Happy Anniversary!

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The power of positive thinking

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Today is March 1.

In San Diego.

It’s raining.

It’s been raining for about 18 hours.

No.

No, no, no, no, no, no, no.

This is not the San Diego that I’ve come to know and love.

Weather reports say we’ve had 0.68 inch of rain since midnight last night.
That’s enough to flood many areas of San Diego….
to cause hundreds of car accidents because people just don’t know how to drive in the rain……..

I grew up along the Gulf Coast in Texas, and I still know how to drive in the rain….

So I knew exactly what to do this morning: Go watch the rain!

For your viewing pleasure, watch this short rain video. Pay close attention to what happens at the 0:10 mark.

Did you see it?

Wasn’t that awesome?

As I was recording the video, I thought to myself, “Go away rain,” and magically it was wiped away!

The power of positive thinking….

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Where are my English experts?

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Someone didn’t like yesterday’s Friday Flower Fiesta…. :(

Within minutes of publishing my Friday Flower Fiesta yesterday, two people unfollowed me…. :(

What is even more distressing is that I used the past tense of the non-word “unfollow”…. :( … Is there a past tense of non-words? Where are my English experts????

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It was six years ago today (we got married!)

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On April 15, 1993, I was standing in line at the Bank of A&M in College Station, Texas, to transfer money from savings to checking to cover the check I was writing to the IRS later than afternoon.

Late that night, after packing the Mustang GT with 100 CDs, enough clothes for a one-week drive, and $5,000 in cash, I left for Canada to commit suicide. It wasn’t the IRS, although I have heard of the IRS driving people to death. Rather, it was sexuality—mine—which I couldn’t reconcile with my Mormon (mom) and Catholic (dad) upbringing. Thus, at the age of 38, I was going to choose suicide.

It’s a two-week story of how I wound up in San Diego, but I did…. And I stayed.

On May 26, 1994, I met Jim Frimmer at the Men’s Coming Out Support Group at the San Diego Center for Social Services. It was actually the gay and lesbian center, but even as recently as 1994 you couldn’t have a telephone number listed for anything “gay” or “lesbian.”

At that time I was working as a consultant in Detroit, Michigan. The company provided me with a free trip home once a month, and May 26, 1994, was my first trip home. We had dates on the 27, 28, and 29 before I had to go back to Detroit. After those three dates, we were pretty sure we were committed to each other.

In November 1995, after I had returned to San Diego permanently, we moved in together and commingled our finances and our lives—a common-law marriage, although not recognized as such since it was between two guys.

On July 31, 2004, we got domestic partnered (such an ugly term) when Domestic Partnership came to California.

Then, in May 2008, the California Supreme Court effectively made same-gender marriage legal in California with one of its rulings. Almost immediately, religious political extremists started gathering signatures for a voter referendum on “gay marriage” and succeeded in getting it on the November 2008 ballot. A week before the election, the polls weren’t looking good for same-gender marriage, so I asked Jim to marry me….

….and on October 30, 2008….

WE GOT MARRIED!
(legally)

The referendum passed, which meant that same-gender couples could no longer marry in California. But what about the 17,000 same-gender couples who had married in California between May and November 2008? Well, in May 2009, the California Supreme Court ruled that since those same-gender couples had married legally, their marriages would remain legal.

Religious political extremists sued to have them declared null and void, but they lost. Since that time same-gender marriage has been taking the United States state by state, and it’s only a matter of time before all 50 states recognize the love between two people of the same gender.

So happy anniversary to Jim Frimmer. Thank you for being a significant part of my life for over twenty years.

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