Civil unioned, domestic partnered, common lawed, or married?
Long-time readers might remember that Jim and I met on May 26, 1994 (we do celebrate that day), moved in together on November 1, 1995, got domestic partnered in California on July 31, 2004, and got married in California on October 30, 2008.
Some people, mostly homophobic conservative religious republicans, might wonder why we got married when we were already domestic partnered. The reason is because they are different, especially when it comes to recognition by the public, “the public” being defined here as businesses.
A great example is what happened to me this morning. The car blew a 120A fuse yesterday, but if a 120A fuse blows, there’s something seriously wrong. Thus, the car had to go to Pep Boys to be checked out.
Meanwhile, I went to rent a car from Enterprise, which has a secret location about a mile from me. I have done lots of business with them over the years but this morning was totally different, unexpected, and pleasant.
As the Enterprise representative was confirming that none of my information has changed, he saw that I had a wedding ring on but that I didn’t have a traditional spouse listed as a reference or anything. He saw that Jim was listed and asked me who Jim was. I proudly said “He’s my husband.” The Enterprise rep asked me if I was “legally married” to Jim and I said, “Yes,” at which point he told me that Jim would automatically be listed as an alternate driver. When I said Jim wouldn’t be driving the car he said, “That’s okay. He’ll still be listed as an alternate driver in case there’s an emergency and you’re not able to drive.”
He explained that Enterprise’s policy is to list spouses as alternative drivers, but spouses are still defined as “married” only and does not include domestic partnerships, civil unions, or even “common law marriages.”
So there you have it. Just one more reason why GLBTQ people want to get married. Not to mention it’s just easier to say — civil unioned, domestic partnered, common lawed, or married? Married, please.
Thank you to Minnesota, Delaware, and Rhode Island for being the most recent three states to pass marriage equality in the past couple of weeks.
Marriage equality laws currently exist in these places:
Argentina, Belgium, Brazil, Canada, Denmark, Iceland, Netherlands, New Zealand, Norway, Portugal, Spain, South Africa, Sweden, Uruguay.
United States: Connecticut, District of Columbia, Delaware, Iowa, Massachusetts, Maryland, Maine, Minnesota, New Hampshire, New York, Rhode Island, Vermont, and Washington.
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