My wise old grandmother’s words of wisdom
Uh-oh. Another series….
When I was living with my mom and stepdad in Brigham City, Utah, I was a juvenile delinquent. Perhaps one of Utah’s greatest juveniles ever. You name it, I did it. Everything except rape and murder.
When my wise old grandmother, Mary Alice Kirk, adopted me in December 1965, she laid down the rules and told me the consequences of breaking the rules. She was serious, too. It only took me twice to see that. Each time I broke a rule, yes, I did suffer the consequences. Quite often I had to go out to the back yard and cut the oleander switch that she was going to use on my bare bottom. In today’s world, I probably could sue her for child abuse…. sad. Children need love and discipline, not every toy under the sun in place of good parenting.
I realized when I went off to college at Texas A&M University just how much she meant to me and what she had done for me. Without her unconditional love and discipline, I truly believe that I would have been killed by a law enforcement officer many decades ago or would be living out my life in prison right now.
In 1974 I started keeping a journal of all her words of wisdom, and my new series will share those words with you.
My wise old grandmother died in July 2003, and my three uncles disinvited me to the funeral. Stupid me didn’t know that you needed an invitation to go to a funeral. That hurt, so much so that in September 2004 I legally changed my name, dropping my surname Kirk and replacing it with my middle name Ray, becoming simply Russel Ray.
Since my dad’s side of the family were all Catholics, and my mom’s side were all Mormons, both sides didn’t really care for me when I came out of the closet in May 1993. To this day I’m estranged from both sides of the family. The only connection I maintain is a web site dedicated to my wise old grandmother.
Anyway, I look forward to sharing some inspiring words with my readers and hope you enjoy them.
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