My wise old grandmother’s words of wisdom — The 80/10/10 rule for people
One of the places I hang out at each day is the Ugly Hedgehog. It’s a photography message board. There are forums for posting pictures just because, posting pictures to get constructive criticism (and if you ask for it, you better be able to take it), asking questions about photography, and, something no message board ever seems to do without, a general chit-chat forum.
I’ve learned to stay out of general chit-chat forums because it often gets too hot in them — sex, drugs, rock ‘n’ roll, politics, religion………
One of the current threads — now at 17 pages — had people denigrating other people. Some of it got downright nasty. It’s amazing what people will say when they can hide behind the computer screen.
I made a couple of observations, but my main one that seems to have caused the thread to slow down, caused people to step back, pause, and take a deep breath, was this:
My wise old grandmother taught me the 80/10/10 rule for people:
10% of the people will hate me because that’s the type of people they are.
10% of the people will love me because that’s the type of people they are.
80% of the people will love me or hate me depending on my words and actions.
That’s what inspired this new series My wise old grandmother’s words of wisdom.
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